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First impressions are everything; when properly executed, they have the power to open opportunities for an individual’s future. Let’s take this concept and transition into the realm of dating. When you’re putting yourself out there to meet someone up to your standards, it’s imperative to make sure you’re doing your part in that process. How you present yourself on a date can lead to a lifetime of memories or a significant loss of other people’s interests. The other person will make sure they look their absolute best for you; why not do the same for them?

Before any date, it’s good to communicate with that person. This allows two individuals to be of one accord when it comes to date night ideas and assists in developing a sense of comfort and safety. Keep in mind you don’t want to bombard your date with information, but communicate enough to show them you are interested.

The next one is a given: getting fresh and clean. We know that practicing good hygiene is helpful for the body, but are you aware of how something as simple as smelling great can make a person feel. It is said that the sense of smell can trigger emotion in the brain, like happiness or excitement. Taking that moment to wash up, clean under those fingernails, or spray cologne creates an intimate environment before any contact. Once you get that in check, you want to get yourself groomed. Take the time to get yourself a haircut, touch up if you have facial hair and a facial if the barbering service offers it. Getting these things in order is a thoughtful step in the first impression process of dating. This gives off classy vibes by showing that you take pride in presenting yourself. 

The exact energy you put in communication or your hygiene process is the same amount you put in when choosing from the wardrobe. I’m not here to tell you what to wear; I’m just saying you want to dress for the occasion. Overall, things to think about are wearing relaxed and comfortable clothes. Be mindful of what impression you want to give while on the date. 

When it comes to first dates, there can be a lot going on in your head. Palms may begin to sweat; hearts may begin to race; I think you get the gist. That nervousness is very normal because you’re getting closer to meeting that person. Take some time before the date to get yourself mentally together, whether it’s listening to some music or any stress relief activity. Be confident; visualize being present at that moment.

After you’ve done everything to prepare for the date on your end, everything else is history. This is where you make that person feel special. Compliment their smile and tell them how beautiful they look to you. Be a gentleman, trust me; chivalry isn’t dead, fellas.