We’re constantly told to surround ourselves with people who make us happy, not to stay in relationships were we feel unappreciated, unworthy, or were our feelings are invalidated. Most college students are stuck in toxic friendships and relationships. Perhaps, we try to seek for a sense permanence in clinging onto people, failing to realize everything is impermanent. The problem is that when people cause us pain, it reminds us of how much they mean to us. We allow them to remain as a part of our lives. Maybe this is how we fall apart, and get trapped in toxic relationships.

Do not let the, “We fight because we love each other” belief make you think it is okay to stay in unhealthy relationships.

If there is more fighting in any kind of relationship, than care and love – there shouldn’t be a relationship at all.

As college students; too often, we struggle letting toxic people go. We fear going through the entire college course without any friends, or loved one’s, so instead we let the fear of being alone hold us hostage in toxic relationships.

It is when you are alone that you realize your worth, you start discovering that you can be whole by yourself, without half on another. It is important that from a young age, we nurture and protect our feelings and hearts. This may mean breaking up with someone we care deeply about, letting go of longtime friends, or loving a family member from a distance. Even if it means being alone, maybe, a bit of heartache is required for us to grow.

Above all, it is also important to take a step back and take responsibility for our actions too, that we might be the toxic friend, or partner.

Letting go off toxic people is an act of self-care, not cruelty. Take care of yourself before anything else. You’re allowed to put yourself first. You have the power to choose the healthiest options for yourself.

Life is about balance. Be kind. Do not let people abuse you.