Just breathe. Find a cozy corner and grab a favorite beverage while reading this column. Life for a student in the university is challenging enough with performance goals, time organization and networking. Add to that raising children, working and long-standing commitments within the community, and those challenges grow exponentially. Just going out the door every morning with correctly matching pair of shoes is an achievement. How many of us have forgotten a musical toy in our bags that set off during an exam?
Still, despite the challenges and minor setbacks, we are still here “raging against the dying of the light” as Dylan Thomas would say. But if some of you are not seeing the light, or seeing only a faint discoloration of something in the horizon, please allow me to share some of the lessons I’ve learned about juggling roles in academia.
First, mindfully organize your time. Time organization is key in keeping balance in the chaos. It’s impossible to do everything or please everyone. Learn to say no.
Second, make “me time” a priority. Demands are everywhere. Take some time to enjoy the things that make you feel relaxed. The world won’t end because you take time out for self-care.
Third, disconnect from the screen and reconnect with loved ones. Quality time with family will help keep your mind peaceful, and reinforce family values to your kids. If there’s a campus event, encourage the whole family to join you so they can share in your academic world.
Lastly, find a support group. It’s important to be around people who appreciate you and genuinely care about your well-being. Surround yourself with positive people.
Learning how to balance your roles will sharpen managerial skills and teach your kids the importance of hard work and perseverance. I hope these tips will help you along your academic journey. You are well on your way.
Melissa Laussmann is a grad student.